We reveal seductively wicked sex games that you have only dared to dream about. Palpitations and climaxes guaranteed! It will definitely be hot.
Wicked love games with bondage and a lot of fantasy
Flower sex is beautiful. Cuddle with your sweetheart in bed, caress each other and whisper words of endearment in your ear. Yes, there is something about it.
But let’s be honest: don’t you sometimes feel like a really wild number? An erotic experience of superlatives, where it goes properly to the point, uninhibited and incorrect? Not a routine bedtime story, but pure ecstasy?
Germany’s leading SM expert Arne Hoffmann and Australian sex therapist Dr. Gabrielle Morrissey know how to increase pleasure. Here they reveal their best and most tingling tips for hot sex games – try at your own risk!
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Power games as a thrill
When we think of SM sex, most of us think of leather and whips and somewhat scary practices. But even for “normals,” the erotic playfulness of sadomasochism delivers a few stimulating kicks that can enrich one’s love life immensely.
“I’m often asked what’s appealing about one partner submitting while the other sets the tone,” says SM expert Arne Hoffmann and author of the book “Sex für Fortgeschrittene.” “Well, for the passive part it means absolute surrender. He gives up control, lets himself go and shows his partner an infinite trust. There is no greater form of intimacy; likewise, for the dominant, it’s a thrilling feeling that the other person is completely surrendering himself to him.”
From tender to hard: Sex games with dominance
Many couples who enjoy light S&M practices, such as bondage games, are not infrequently so-called “switchers” in the process, meaning that sometimes one, then the other is the boss. “The feeling of being dominated or disciplined is tremendously arousing,” agrees Dr. Gabrielle Morrissey, sex therapist and author of the book “From Hard to Tender. Sex Tips for Adults.”
The reason: “It goes hand in hand with the illusion of complete powerlessness, but not with the actual loss of control. In the process, the submissive and dominant partners agree beforehand on the boundaries that must not be crossed, and on code words that bring the game to an immediate halt should either of them take it too far.”
Such a safeword, for example “time-out,” is incredibly important and should be unmistakable, because you’re only supposed to experience the thrill of played danger – and not actually come to harm.
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Truth or dare
In childhood, it was one of our favorite games: Sitting in a circle, spinning bottles, asking questions, having to do something specific. But even for adults, such an “interrogation” can be enormously tingling: “The partner must answer all questions about his most secret fantasies or his partnership past,” Arne Hoffmann explains the rules. You should definitely take turns, because it’s easier when each of you has a turn.
Who likes, can take the other also in the “duty”, by commanding for example to be brought by him orally to the climax. During this erotic “play lesson” you can also tie your lover to the bed, for each true answer you loosen or untie a knot. Or you tie him more and more tightly (in several places, not altogether tighter!), if he does not want to say or do something.
Spicy role play
Costuming and role-playing are common among SM fans. Arne Hoffmann gives an example: “She dresses up very seductively and enjoys a drink at the counter of a bar. He joins her, addresses her as if he doesn’t know her. There is a brief exchange of words that ends with him slipping her a bill and taking her with him – to his car or his apartment. To do whatever he wants with her there …”
Other popular scenarios are: Boss and secretary, teacher and student, rock star and groupie, nurse and patient, police officer and suspect. Let your imagination run wild! And don’t be ashamed – no one knows but you …
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Hot and cold
When we are aroused, we perceive external influences much more intensively. So put your partner in gentle restraints and stimulate his senses: “Alternate between hot and cold stimuli,” says Arne Hoffmann, “for example, between drops of candle wax and ice cubes. Start with less sensitive areas such as the shoulder blades and chest muscles, and always use candles made of kerosene or stearin instead of beeswax, which can get very hot. The farther away you hold the candle from your partner’s body, the lower the temperature.”
Start with a very large distance of at least one meter, you don’t really want to hurt your loved one!
Aggravated treatment
This game gets a little meaner – but also more exciting – when you blindfold your partner with a cloth and they don’t know what’s going to happen next. “Blindfolds can add to the erotic titillation by making the subject feel helpless, exposed and vulnerable, or by making him dive into a fantasy world,” says the expert. In the process, you can also confuse his hot-and-cold sensations. For example, by announcing that you’re going to drip hot candle wax on his skin, when in fact you’re using ice-cold water.”
Back to nature
“Kidnap your partner to a place where you can theoretically be observed by third parties, although the risk is extremely low, for example, to a place in the middle of the forest “, is another tip from Arne Hoffmann’s repertoire. “Command him there to undress and touch himself while you watch him do it.” Of course, you can also join in the lovemaking.
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Always at your service
“Enjoy an evening in which you let yourself be pampered only by your partner,” encourages Arne Hoffmann. “For example, he has to draw you a hot bath, serve you champagne and some fruit, soap you up, wash and dry you, and then paint your toenails . With every moment of hesitation or lack of submissiveness, he has earned a playful punishment.” This can be anything from abstaining from sex for a week to cleaning the apartment or a meal at a five-star restaurant, which, of course, he pays for.
Bet that …?
Also a game you might like: “Make a bet with your sweetheart every now and then with erotic stakes,” suggests the SM expert. “Whoever loses, for example, has to spend the rest of the day undressed or fulfill his or her partner’s every wish for a weekend.” You must have some erotic ideas and fantasies that you’d like to put into practice sometime. Do you?
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Sex game with candle: Burning desire
Gabrielle Morrissey has a wonderfully seductive idea for us women: “To prolong foreplay, light a small candle on the nightstand.” As long as the candle burns, your partner must pamper you without being allowed to penetrate you. Only when the light is extinguished, he may pounce on you. And be sure: You yourself will also wish that the damn thing would finally burn down!
Tickle games
Tickling is among one of the most popular S&M sex practices, because places where we are particularly sensitive are usually also among the erogenous zones of our body. “Tie your partner to the bed with soft cloths,” says Arne Hoffmann, “and tickle him until he begs for mercy.” The same applies here as with all other “games”: don’t go all out right away, but first carefully sound out where your loved one reacts and how.
Aids such as feathers, cloths, brushes, flower buds and pearl necklaces are of course allowed. But please stop tickling as soon as the other person calls out your agreed safeword!
On call for erotic games
Agree with your partner on a period of time (for example, a week) in which he is sexually available to you at any time, no matter what he is doing and whether he himself is aroused or not. “During this time period, he has to be ready for your erotic access at any time, which you take advantage of at your whim,” explains Arne Hoffmann. Here, too, the following applies: if one of the two no longer wants to, the experiment is aborted.
When you come, I decide
“In the expectation lies the greatest pleasure, claims the vernacular. That’s why ‘orgasm control’ is a common method for increasing pleasure on both sides,” explains Arne Hoffmann. The rules are simple: one of the two partners determines when the other may come. “Bring him to the edge of climax with deft fingers, without actually allowing it to happen. When he’s almost, but only almost, at the peak of arousal, you can either ignore him completely, going into the kitchen for a glass of water, for example, or continue to skillfully pleasure him, pushing him up and dropping him again and again so that he just doesn’t make it over the cliff. Only when he’s visibly at the end of his rope do you allow him to come.”
Take me, here and now!
Many women dream of being taken very dominantly by their man. Here’s a tip: arrange a hot game with your lover – you come home (or to his apartment), he lies in wait for you and surprisingly falls all over you. Enjoy the feeling of powerlessness, being at the mercy of your partner and not being responsible for what happens. And always remember: as soon as you signal to him that you don’t want anymore, the game is over.